To the girl who constantly wants to be my friend,


I am sure you’re reading this as, you have tried to follow my IG and my blog is right there in the description.

You’ve been trying to add me on Facebook for years now, I let your name just sit there in my inbox contemplating if I should even accept you. You’ve even gone as far as deleting your request just to add me again- yes, I do see you. I am not sure what you’re trying to tell me, but this is what I am trying to tell you.

The question that comes to mind is why? Why do you even want to be my friend? What is your fascination with being friends with a “stupid bitch”?

As I am sure you don’t remember, let us revisit the past for a moment. Three years ago (pretty much 3 years today) I tweeted about how cold it was getting – a harmless observation which had nothing at all to do with you. It was simply a tweet about how I was feeling about the weather that day.  As you felt it so necessary to point out, Yes, I tweeted about how it was getting chilly in September. Yes, I am aware that I live in New England and the weather changes daily. However obvious, however irrelevant of a statement this was, it certainly did not warrant a response like:

Now I’m not sure what it was exactly about this tweet that put such a large stick up your ass, but to go out of your way simply to insult someone so blatantly told me everything I needed to know about you. (Que the applause!) You didn’t even need all 140 characters to show the world everything they needed to know about your own character. So no, Twitter’s limit may not have been reached…but mine has.

Now let’s not go and get too emotional. After all, in life there will always be people who simply don’t like you. Nobody’s perfect, right? There are just some people who won’t like you and that’s okay. But, why bother trying to add me on every social media site if you’re just going to say mean things?

So in case you’re wondering why I have blocked you on IG, twitter, and why I won’t add you on FB this is why:

All throughout middle school there was drama, it didn’t matter what the situation was, you’d find some way to call me names or use my past against me. Granted we were teenagers and of course we are going to get into petty arguments. Now, when years & YEARS have passed- as adults – you’re still trying to cause it. It just shows me that you haven’t grown up. Whatever reasoning for why you did what you did is beyond me, maybe you were having a rough day and needed to take it out on someone – which still isn’t excused. I just don’t understand what I did to cause you to say what you said and to be honest I don’t care.

Regardless as to why you did what you did; it’s rude, inconsiderate and I don’t want a “friend” like that in my life.

Now, that I have wasted my time and energy into this post, I hope that when you read this you will get the picture and leave me alone. I also hope that this gives you a reality check that not everyone wants the drama and negative energy in their lives. I would like to think that at the ages of 25 and 26 we’re adults now and we can be mature. If you don’t like what I am saying on social media, then you’re more then welcome to unfollow me. 🙂


  1. Don’t sweat the small stuff – not everyone is going to like you and that’s okay. You’re not here to please everyone, just do you and what makes your heart flutter.
  2. Don’t feed into the petty drama – if someone who’s not a huge significance in your life says something bad about you just brush it off, they don’t deserve you.
  3. Some people really don’t change. There’s no point in changing someone for the better if they can’t see what’s wrong with themselves.
  4. Surround yourself with people who make you happy not the ones that bring you down.
  5. When someone judges you; it isn’t actually about you, it’s about them and their insecurities, limitations and needs.





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